I can identify with this very much! Chris and I had poker, not chorus, and though they are very different activities, the socialization, the something external to do/think about/talk about, the extra social activities that come with the circle of friends....it's all the same.

We tried going back to a few of our games, but things are different. The games have changed a little, but we've changed a lot. The idea of something being "worth it" for us to rearrange schedules, go to bed later than usual (and be extra tired the next day), absolutely factors into it. And we only have Henry! I can only imagine how much more "worth it" an activity would have to be for you and James!

But it won't always be like this. Our kids will need us in different ways as they get older, and we'll be able to carve out time for ourselves. The trick will be finding something that can give us a big dose of fulfillment in the windows of time we can afford for it.

We'll find it....